You are engaged. Now what?

Now that you have said I Do, here are a few things you should start doing.

Start a wedding planner. You can either purchase one or make your own with a binder full of your wedding ideas. Be sure to add dividers for each vendor category.  Put pockets in it as well to hold all quotes until you secure each vendor.Pick your wedding date ( I have noticed a trend of couples picking their dates based on the venue they want and their availability)Have an engagement party (Invite your family and friends to join in the celebration)Set your budget (This is the dreaded topic but necessary. You cannot start planning with out it) Before finalizing your budget, do some research on items you  know you will need and want for your wedding. This will give you an idea of the going rate of some items and it will enable you to set a realistic budget.Meet with a Wedding Planner. (You may not have a budget for a full planner but should consider a Day of coordinator. Also, a wedding planner can be hired as a c…

Why do DJ's charge so much? All they are doing is playing music

 The DJ will make or break your party. We have come a long way from putting a record on and saying a few words on the microphone. I asked 4 DJ/Entertainment Companies for their thoughts and cost and their response was article worthy.
A professional DJ puts a lot of work into your events weeks, even months prior to your event.  They must pull the music, program equipment, and coordinate with venues and other vendors (especially if there is not a planner or coordinator) Prior to your event, they must upgrade and maintain their equipment and  also handle training sessions to ensure that all of their staff can handle your event with perfection. Your professional DJ isn't just pushing play, he must
1. Have the ability to control a room
2. Time Management
3. Posses Professional Equipment
4. Have Experience
5. Know the proper flow of your wedding and be able to quickly transition
6. Be well spoken and Professionally dressed

I must quote one DJ who said to me, "If you hire someone who DJ'…

What are Service Charges? What are we paying for?

The Service Charges is the evil little charge that most couples despise. It hikes up your food and/or venue cost and is taxable. So what is this cost? Each venue or caterer charges for different reasons. If you are at a hotel, for example, you will notice the charge is 18% - 24%. These charges may include labor (kitchen staff, setup staff, event manager, etc. These charges also incorporates the use of their equipment such as chaffing dishes, utensils, china, etc.  If you are using a caterer, you will see they breakdown labor cost but sometimes you do not see the breakdown of their staff that cooks the food, load and unload their trucks. For outside caterers, this charge covers fuel, transportation, and maintenance, along with equipment use such as chafing dishes, china, etc. At no time is this charge a gratuity. When planning you wedding, please be sure to incorporate these charges in your final budget.

1.BRINGING AN ENTOURAGE: Keep it Simple. The more people you bring the more confusing selecting your gown gets. Keep the numbers down to under 3 2.SHOPPING TOO EARLY: It is natural to want to start shopping for gowns soon after you become engaged. The problem is, you try on so m any that you may forget what you really like. Try to keep gown shopping at 12 months prior or when you are READY to purchase. 3.TRYING ON TOO MANY GOWNS

Hiring your vendors-Basic Tips

Here are a few tips when searching for vendors. 
Basic Tips READ, READ, READ EVERYTHING!! This is mistake number 1,2,3,4 and 5.Do your research. Learn about average pricing for not only venues but also the extra items such as draping, updated chairs, etc.After your research, then decide what your budget is going to beEverything that is promised to you, get it in writingDo not be afraid to ask questionsTrust the vendors that you hire. Let us do our job!When visiting vendors, make sure you have your color swatches and basic ideas of what you likeBe realistic about what you want and what you can afford. It is not the vendor’s jobs to give you deals because you budget doesn’t allow you to afford what you want. The more guest you have, the more your catering bill and higher your budget.The bigger your wedding party, the bigger your budget. Remember, you have to buy more bouquets, boutonnieres, wedding party gifts, rehearsal dinner, etc.Do not feel pressured to have an open barPick your weddi…

Wedding Mistakes I

Getting engaged and planning a wedding is probably the happiest time of your life. It can also be one of the most stressful times of your life. Sometimes, brides get so caught up in the moment and the wow factor that they begin to make serious mistakes.
The following 5 mistakes are ones that I see time and time again.
Forgetting the Purpose. Don’t forget the purpose of your wedding. Its not to impress or out do your girlfriend. It’s not about keeping up with the Jones’s. It’s a public display of your love for one another. Remember, the Ceremony is the main event. Your reception is the party celebrating the main event. Don’t neglect the details of your wedding like the vows, meaningful music, etc.
The Budget Your budget is your Guideline. Make every effort to stick with it. You have spent a year or so saving your money and in some cases, receiving help from your family. Make sure you do not fall victim to useless, wasteful spending. If your wedding and reception is at the same location, why…

What is so Hard about Planning a Wedding

The wedding Vision asked me to write an article on why Wedding Planning is so hard. Enjoy!

What is so Hard about Planning a Wedding
Ivy Honeycutt The Silk Veil Events by Ivy | Charlotte, North Carolina  2017

That is a loaded question. Most people think planning a wedding is easy because all they have to do is find vendors and then deal with a few details.
In reality, it takes a lot of time, energy, stress, and budgeting to planning a wedding. Experts say it takes over 400 hours to plan a wedding.

A major problem is the fact that many do not realize just how much a wedding costs. Statistically, the average wedding in this area for 150 guests is about $25,000-$30,000. For some this is a drop in the bucket, but for others, it is a lot of money. Note, there are weddings ranging $10,000-$15,000 and also $50,000-$250,000 in this area but pricing seems to be based on your wedding costing a minimum of $25,000-$30,000. (This bud…